Marriage is both a natural institution and a sacred union because it is rooted in the divine plan of creation. In every marriage the spouses make a contract with each other. Marriage does not just work on its own, the couples must consciously make it work. How? by doing the following :
Prayers :
It is said, that " the family that prays together, stay together". One of the ancient keys to making marriage and relationships work, is Prayer. Pray before entering into that relationship or marriage. The truth is that, man didn't institute marriage, God did. Who is in a better
position to tell you about how a product works, than the manufacturer? . Since God instituted marriage, it's only Him that can tell you how to make it work so that you can enjoy rather than endure your marriage and relationships.
Ask God for directions and wait for His leading. By doing so, you save yourself from unnecessary stress and anxiety as well as the pains of broken homes and divorce.
Appreciation Of Personality :
Some couples don't show appreciation in marriage. No matter how little a spouse does it should be appreciated. It's not only when your spouse buys you a car, House, or expensive jewellery that you appreciate him /her. Show appreciation in things of lesser value also.
Communication : This is the glue that holds the marriage.
Communication is more than just listening ;it's understanding and properly responding to what we have heard. Clear communication occurs when two people know not" only what to say" but" when and how to say it".
Many couples assume that since they talk a lot and have romantic feelings for each other, they are communicating well. That isn't necessarily true. Communication should not be formal or forced. It should be a natural part of your relationship with your spouse, that weaves through all your time together. The absence of conflict doesn't equal good communication.
Conflict is not necessarily a bad thing. It's a sign that you are really getting to know each other. Effective communication in marriage is very important. Sex it self, is communication and this should be communicated rightly. Tell your partner the kind of Sex position you like and the one you don't enjoy.
Tolerance :
In order for marriage and relationships to work, the couples "must " have the ability to tolerate and overlook certain things. If you keep seeing the fault of your spouse all the time, then that marriage and relationship is not going to work. You must bear in my mind, that both of you are two different people, from different backgrounds. What you call a taboo, might be a norm for him /her. Tolerance is a must.
Tolerance does not mean that you constantly have to “put up” with your spouse; it means that there are times when you need to be patient and choose not to argue when it is not necessary.
Love :
A song says " it feels good loving somebody and somebody loves you back..." Love is another glue that holds marriage together. The kind of Love am talking about is the pure Love that can not be explained or understood. When you see him or her, it's like a thousand butterflies are rumbling in your stomach. You can stare at your spouse and just won't get tired of doing so.
When you Love someone purely and sincerely, you won't cheat on them, bear grudge, hurt, or say things to bring the person down just So that you appear good and your spouse bad.
Love is an important ingredient to making marriage work. To me it's better to "grow" in Love than ;fall in love. Why? because when you fall in, you can as well fall out. But when you grow to love your spouse, oooo there is this bond and mutual respect and understanding, that cannot easily be shaken.
Prayers :
It is said, that " the family that prays together, stay together". One of the ancient keys to making marriage and relationships work, is Prayer. Pray before entering into that relationship or marriage. The truth is that, man didn't institute marriage, God did. Who is in a better
position to tell you about how a product works, than the manufacturer? . Since God instituted marriage, it's only Him that can tell you how to make it work so that you can enjoy rather than endure your marriage and relationships.
Ask God for directions and wait for His leading. By doing so, you save yourself from unnecessary stress and anxiety as well as the pains of broken homes and divorce.
Appreciation Of Personality :
Some couples don't show appreciation in marriage. No matter how little a spouse does it should be appreciated. It's not only when your spouse buys you a car, House, or expensive jewellery that you appreciate him /her. Show appreciation in things of lesser value also.
Communication : This is the glue that holds the marriage.
Communication is more than just listening ;it's understanding and properly responding to what we have heard. Clear communication occurs when two people know not" only what to say" but" when and how to say it".
Many couples assume that since they talk a lot and have romantic feelings for each other, they are communicating well. That isn't necessarily true. Communication should not be formal or forced. It should be a natural part of your relationship with your spouse, that weaves through all your time together. The absence of conflict doesn't equal good communication.
Conflict is not necessarily a bad thing. It's a sign that you are really getting to know each other. Effective communication in marriage is very important. Sex it self, is communication and this should be communicated rightly. Tell your partner the kind of Sex position you like and the one you don't enjoy.
Tolerance :
In order for marriage and relationships to work, the couples "must " have the ability to tolerate and overlook certain things. If you keep seeing the fault of your spouse all the time, then that marriage and relationship is not going to work. You must bear in my mind, that both of you are two different people, from different backgrounds. What you call a taboo, might be a norm for him /her. Tolerance is a must.
Tolerance does not mean that you constantly have to “put up” with your spouse; it means that there are times when you need to be patient and choose not to argue when it is not necessary.
Love :
A song says " it feels good loving somebody and somebody loves you back..." Love is another glue that holds marriage together. The kind of Love am talking about is the pure Love that can not be explained or understood. When you see him or her, it's like a thousand butterflies are rumbling in your stomach. You can stare at your spouse and just won't get tired of doing so.
When you Love someone purely and sincerely, you won't cheat on them, bear grudge, hurt, or say things to bring the person down just So that you appear good and your spouse bad.
Love is an important ingredient to making marriage work. To me it's better to "grow" in Love than ;fall in love. Why? because when you fall in, you can as well fall out. But when you grow to love your spouse, oooo there is this bond and mutual respect and understanding, that cannot easily be shaken.
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