The moment a young Nigerian lady crosses from the teenage class to the adult class, there is this sudden awareness of the reality of the outside world and the expectations of everyone around them from them becomes very obvious. They are now aware of the fact that they are no longer children that people will readily take responsibility for but they are now very close to becoming responsible. A ‘serious relationship’ that might probably end in marriage becomes the imminent need. A young lady has to become a woman overnight and the
thinking faculty of a child automatically becomes that of an adult even without this child recognizing the moment of this change. The pressure builds with time and it even gets worse when it begins to seem like everyone around you is ‘finding love’ and getting married while you have not even found somebody that is worthy of the full possession of your heart. The social media is not even making things easier as the entire picture, of the perfect moments of all your friends are right in your face and a miserable feeling just washes over you.
At this point, feelings no longer prompt dating and getting into relationships, rather the need to find someone that is presentable and fits into the criteria that has been laid down for the ‘future husband’ is what matters. Whether there is love in our hearts for this person is no longer considered as far as the person has the prospects of providing a secure future, then a relationship starts in the speed of light and the main aim becomes quickly talking the lucky candidate into marriage before another of your friend gets married before you. It begins to appear that there is a laid down structure for the life of a Nigerian female and the moment that your life structure deviates from the laid down structure, it seems like you have a problem.
A lot of people feel like this, and it feels like they are the only ones in this situation. Most ladies these days stay in relationships where they feel nothing for the sake of a sure marriage proposal from the man that they think is ready to get married and will surely propose to them. They are lonely even when they have a supposed companion. There is now a rat race to find a man that can turn into a husband in the speed of light while the need to get into the race for self-development and achievements is totally abandoned. It even gets so bad that some women believe that they are not complete and that there is something wrong with them the moment they are not in relationship. They compromise and tolerate a lot of wrongs from someone who does not deserve them because they are scared that they will not find another ‘prospective husband’.
Everybody is different and so things cannot happen to you the way it happens to another. You might not get your picture perfect moment at the same time as members of your age grade but it will definitely happen. While you wait for this man that the creator has made for you to be your ultimate companion, there is no need to be in a miserable and vulnerable state. This age range is the time for building a career and bagging notable achievements and even when you do not expect it, the man of your dreams will walk into your life and your moment will happen even without any prior planning.
thinking faculty of a child automatically becomes that of an adult even without this child recognizing the moment of this change. The pressure builds with time and it even gets worse when it begins to seem like everyone around you is ‘finding love’ and getting married while you have not even found somebody that is worthy of the full possession of your heart. The social media is not even making things easier as the entire picture, of the perfect moments of all your friends are right in your face and a miserable feeling just washes over you.
At this point, feelings no longer prompt dating and getting into relationships, rather the need to find someone that is presentable and fits into the criteria that has been laid down for the ‘future husband’ is what matters. Whether there is love in our hearts for this person is no longer considered as far as the person has the prospects of providing a secure future, then a relationship starts in the speed of light and the main aim becomes quickly talking the lucky candidate into marriage before another of your friend gets married before you. It begins to appear that there is a laid down structure for the life of a Nigerian female and the moment that your life structure deviates from the laid down structure, it seems like you have a problem.
A lot of people feel like this, and it feels like they are the only ones in this situation. Most ladies these days stay in relationships where they feel nothing for the sake of a sure marriage proposal from the man that they think is ready to get married and will surely propose to them. They are lonely even when they have a supposed companion. There is now a rat race to find a man that can turn into a husband in the speed of light while the need to get into the race for self-development and achievements is totally abandoned. It even gets so bad that some women believe that they are not complete and that there is something wrong with them the moment they are not in relationship. They compromise and tolerate a lot of wrongs from someone who does not deserve them because they are scared that they will not find another ‘prospective husband’.
Everybody is different and so things cannot happen to you the way it happens to another. You might not get your picture perfect moment at the same time as members of your age grade but it will definitely happen. While you wait for this man that the creator has made for you to be your ultimate companion, there is no need to be in a miserable and vulnerable state. This age range is the time for building a career and bagging notable achievements and even when you do not expect it, the man of your dreams will walk into your life and your moment will happen even without any prior planning.
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