Someone said and I quote : "it is better to be single and be lonely, than been married and be Lonely".
What is Loneliness?
Sadness because one has no friends or company. Loneliness is a complex and usually unpleasant emotional response to isolation or lack of companionship. Loneliness typically includes anxious feelings about a lack of connection or communication with other beings, both in the present and extending into the future. As such, loneliness can be felt even when surrounded by other people. The causes of loneliness are varied and include social, mental, emotional or even physical factors.
If you go thru the Internet and read various books, you will be told that loneliness is not Good for you, it leads to depression, heart attack and low self esteem. God himself acknowledge in his word in( Genesis 2:18) :" It is not good that man should be alone... "
However, in as much as Loneliness is not good, there comes a time in our lives., Loneliness is not just Good, Loneliness is a Blessing. Did I just say that? Yes I did. Why? It is better to be lonely and
single, than to be in a relationship with someone who abuses you, both mentally and physically, it's better to be single and lonely than to be a victim of Domestic violence. The Fear of loneliness is the reason why many young men and women entered into wrong marriages and are suffering for it today. Rather than looking for ways to fill than loneliness, why not embrace it, enjoy it savor every moment, don't be in a haste to fill it in. For example wives and mothers reading this now will appreciate better. They are so busy from morning to night, making sure that things go well in the house, never having a moment to their selves, looking back at the days when they had all the time but spent it feeling lonely rather than enjoying every bit of it. If there kids are twins hmm...
Been in relationships doesn't not guarantee that you won't be lonely. In fact a lot of married people are lonely. They are sleeping next to their spouse but yearning for another. What do you call that? Before you jump into that relationship again for the fear of been Lonely, why not Put God First. Many a times our hearts are broken because we are looking for love in all the wrong places and with the wrong people and in the wrong ways. We think, "I can't be who I am unless I have a man in my life, or I have a woman in my life," and if the man or woman leaves, we feel we are not a whole person with a heart that's torn and broken.
God comforts hearts, even when we feel faint and weak. Seek companionship with Christ first. When you seek God first, see (Matthew 6:33), every " other thing" is added unto you, including relationship. Therefore, rather than wasting time, sulking, complaining and feeling sorry for yourself on how lonely you are, why not embrace the Blessing of Loneliness, enjoy it, seek for God, find him, be committed to him, enjoy his company in your loneliness, use it to your advantage because a time will come when you just want to be alone, even for just 5mins but will be unable to.
What is Loneliness?
Sadness because one has no friends or company. Loneliness is a complex and usually unpleasant emotional response to isolation or lack of companionship. Loneliness typically includes anxious feelings about a lack of connection or communication with other beings, both in the present and extending into the future. As such, loneliness can be felt even when surrounded by other people. The causes of loneliness are varied and include social, mental, emotional or even physical factors.
If you go thru the Internet and read various books, you will be told that loneliness is not Good for you, it leads to depression, heart attack and low self esteem. God himself acknowledge in his word in( Genesis 2:18) :" It is not good that man should be alone... "
However, in as much as Loneliness is not good, there comes a time in our lives., Loneliness is not just Good, Loneliness is a Blessing. Did I just say that? Yes I did. Why? It is better to be lonely and
single, than to be in a relationship with someone who abuses you, both mentally and physically, it's better to be single and lonely than to be a victim of Domestic violence. The Fear of loneliness is the reason why many young men and women entered into wrong marriages and are suffering for it today. Rather than looking for ways to fill than loneliness, why not embrace it, enjoy it savor every moment, don't be in a haste to fill it in. For example wives and mothers reading this now will appreciate better. They are so busy from morning to night, making sure that things go well in the house, never having a moment to their selves, looking back at the days when they had all the time but spent it feeling lonely rather than enjoying every bit of it. If there kids are twins hmm...
Been in relationships doesn't not guarantee that you won't be lonely. In fact a lot of married people are lonely. They are sleeping next to their spouse but yearning for another. What do you call that? Before you jump into that relationship again for the fear of been Lonely, why not Put God First. Many a times our hearts are broken because we are looking for love in all the wrong places and with the wrong people and in the wrong ways. We think, "I can't be who I am unless I have a man in my life, or I have a woman in my life," and if the man or woman leaves, we feel we are not a whole person with a heart that's torn and broken.
God comforts hearts, even when we feel faint and weak. Seek companionship with Christ first. When you seek God first, see (Matthew 6:33), every " other thing" is added unto you, including relationship. Therefore, rather than wasting time, sulking, complaining and feeling sorry for yourself on how lonely you are, why not embrace the Blessing of Loneliness, enjoy it, seek for God, find him, be committed to him, enjoy his company in your loneliness, use it to your advantage because a time will come when you just want to be alone, even for just 5mins but will be unable to.
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